How Couples Are Stop Arguments Using Social psychology?


cognitive psychology, social psychology, psychology of human relationships

Today's episode of The Psychology World Podcast looks at the social psychology topic of 4 tips to help couples resolve arguments.


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Tips to help couples resolve Arguments:

Let's face it couples fight and sometimes Arguments can be positive as it can allow you express thoughts and feelings that you've been building. Allowing you to possibly resolve them.


Plus, I truly believe that people can grow through conflict as it can allow you express and resolve issues so you can both better the relationship.


However, Arguments can awful if all you do is argue. Especially, over something you can't agree on. For example, where to go on holiday.


Let's look at some possible tips:


Understand the Interest, not the position itself:

Let's say you were fighting about where to go on holiday and you wanted to go to the Caribbean but your partner wanted to go to Paris.


And you too couldn't stop arguing and find a solution.


Therefore, you might want to think about why you want to go to the Caribbean or Paris.


You might want to go because the Caribbean has sunshine and hot temperatures.


Then your partner might want to go to Paris for the history and cafes.


So, now you know your interests, it turns out you don’t want to go to the Caribbean or Paris.

You want to go to somewhere sunny with history and cafes.


The whole point of this tip is to help you both become more flexible and find a resolution that you both like.


Perhaps in this example, you might both want to visit Rome because it has cafes, sunshine and history.


Quid Pro Quo:

This tip is quote simple because you might want to come to an agreement saying if we do what I want. Then I do something that I don’t don’t really want to do for you.


Like, if you hate cars but your partner loves them then you go to their car thing. In exchange for doing something you love.


It's all about compromise.


Take Turns:

Going back to our holiday example, to resolve this argument the couple might want to think about simply taking turns.


So, this year they go to the Caribbean and next year the couple could go to Paris.

This way both members of the couple can get what they want.


Flip a Coin:

I suppose if everything else fails then the couple could flip a coin because at least some sort of decision could be made.


At the end of the day, this could help the couple not to argue and could save them arguing for weeks or months.


If this didn’t work, then professional counselling might be an idea.


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Reference:

Fisher, R., Ury, W.L., & Patton, B. (2011). Getting to Yes. Westminster, London: Penguin Books.

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